"When you deeply appreciate and look forward to people criticizing you, you're free."
The other day, I asked a friend if she took a look at the latest youtube video I posted and what she thought. She did and then proceeded to give me her honest opinion. To sum it up, she was not impressed. She started out telling me that she was intrigued by what I was imparting but then I took a turn and it all became "Too woowoo" for her. I thanked her for her honesty and then sat with her words to feel them and see if there was anything that came up that was asking for clarity.🙏 What courage it takes to accept criticizing! The being who is completely free actually seeks it out or invites it in and that is because they know that to be on the receiving end of criticizing is a porthole to unfinished, personal business. 🦋 Any hurt or painful reaction is the nudge that there is some unfinished business.
🦋 Are you willing to go digging? Are you willing to ask yourself some powerful questions? Are you willing to forgive the criticizer and take a closer look within yourself? 🦋 They are simply mirroring your unfinished business (if there is any). The one who is completely free can honestly thank the criticizer for their honesty and for inviting them to wake up and get clear. 🦋 I invite you the next time you feel attacked or criticized, to thank the one who is doing the criticizing and then go sit with yourself and take a closer look.
🙏 You might realize that their honesty and your innocence is an invitation to healing. Are you ready?
Sending you all my love ~ 💕🦋🙏🕊🌷
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The May 2019 No-Body Intensive.⠀
Thank You Family,⠀
What an amazing time! Those of you who were able to make it to the event, you blew my mind how you were able to drop into The Work. It was fabulous. If you were unable to make it for this event, what made it so powerful was the four questions and the turnarounds. And the questions and instruction on how to do The Work are always there for you at no charge at byronkatie.com.⠀
Having the ability to consciously dissociate from my personality, my sense of who and what I am, has made it safer and easier to fully embody and explore any story and emotion. .
This knowing that I am not my emotions, my thoughts, my sense of personality, helps me to go deep into any experience without becoming swept up in the drama that is playing itself out or wallow or drown in the emotional activations. .
At times, making a conscious decision to practice dis-identifying with my idea of ‘me’ and all the stories attached to my idea of me, helps to reduce the intensity of and resistance against emotional and mental loops. .
It is the resistance we have to our inner environment that makes it hard to actually get anywhere - it’s like trying to claw your way out of quicksand and only getting more stuck. This makes that most of us never truly allow ourselves to feel and therefore heal the depth our emotions. And, we are so busy trying to fight our mind that it becomes impossible to see that it’s us fighting ourselves. The only real answer lies in taking a step back, zooming out, and expanding our awareness. .
This is how psychology and spirituality can work in tandem. The cup and the water. . 🌹
WHAT SPIRITUAL BYPASS TAUGHT ME
Everything can be valuable.
Anything can be dangerous.
Most things can be both - all depending on how you use them. .
Spiritual bypass, while in the long run dangerous and unsustainable, taught me that you can’t fake it until you make it, but you can fake it and later truly feel it. .
During a period of soul searching where I was unwittingly bypassing, I stumbled upon an accidental truth in the bypassing. I used a technique, and that very same technique showed me that sometimes it’s truly wise and smart to be able to dissociate from your emotions and your personality structure (identity, ego). .
When we get to experience this amazing expansion of awareness and the freedom it gives us, it’s only natural to then believe we must cling to this state, that we’ve reached some sort of finish line. .
This is not true. Instead, that state that we experience IS truth, but it can’t become true for us through sheer imagination and willpower. We want it so bad that we try, and we create a fantasy world for ourselves where we think we are not hurting, but we are. And while we can fool ourselves, we can’t truly hide from ourselves, and so the truth of discomfort will come to surface sooner or later and we will have learned a valuable lesson. .
When we learn we can dissociate from the ego and all it’s drama, this is when the journey BEGINS in earnest - not ends. THAT, is the important distinction to make. .
From that moment on, we begin to integrate our spirit and human self. We don’t deny our emotions and suffering - but we do realize on SOME level they are illusions. We have tasted truth, and this truth simple becomes our true north guiding our journey forward and inward. . 🌹
All of my transmissions in Broken Open are based on the merging of our human perspective and soul perspective. .
One of the most radical things we can do as humans is to be with what is arising. ✨ When I’m feeling agitated, I focus on listening to what is arising in the present moment. Meditation occurs when we merge with our being-ness. Adding nothing, taking away nothing, allowing everything to be as it is. ☁️
Is this true?
What a mind blowing thought...and yet...
If it's true, it means that all suffering is a choice. It means that when we suffer we are in a state of insanity.
I'm so obsessed with Byron Katie's book, Loving What Is that as soon as I finish (in about 12 pages) I'm starting back at the beginning again. AND I just listened to @lewishowes interviewing her (so good!) which is when she dropped this gem of a quote💎
She speaks to things that we already know. I read them and I remember this wisdom that I've had within me and ignored - and suffered for it - how insane is that?
Bring on the brain explosions 💡 🙇 💥
I LOVE asking kids what they love most about their parents! Have you ever asked your kids what they LOVE doing with you? I bet you one million dollars it's not the things that are keeping us parents up at night, all the things we worry we're not doing right.
What might the weekend look like focused on what's working?
“When you are constantly evaluating, classifying, labeling, analyzing, you create a lot of turbulence in your inner dialogue. This turbulence constricts the flow of energy between you & your essential state of pure potentiality - the field of all possibilities & infinite creativity.” @deepakchopra ❤️ #falDOit
This just says it all. It reminds me, in a way, if The Work. Love What Is.
From a devotional I read titled, 𝘉𝘌𝘈𝘜𝘛𝘐𝘍𝘜𝘓 𝘔𝘐𝘕𝘋: 𝟹 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴, by Ramos Author (Faithsprings)
Your Mind is a Tool
First and foremost, your mind is a tool. It controls your body, how you walk, speak, and eat. It enables you to react to your environment: to jump out of the way of a distracted driver or to feel emotion during a live play. It also shapes our lives.
Your mind can be a rope you use to help you climb up to new levels of living. It can also be a hammer with which you smash possibility. Your mind can fix problems or worsen them. It can plug a leak in your soul or expand it.
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞—𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐨𝐟 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬. 𝐇𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫, 𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐫.
I could be given the same tool-belt as a master craftsman and would have no idea how to use half the things in there! Even though I had the same tools as the craftsman, I wouldn’t be able to produce the same results right away because my skill and training doesn’t compare to his.
In the same way, I want to show you that your mind is capable of accomplishing anything—so long as you are willing to develop the skills needed to use it properly.
This is my dear, dear friend @lesalemonds, and besides the genuine joy on her face I love the coincidental "very passionate" unconsciously included in the frame. She is indeed very passionate, the cheerleader every girl deserves. She has been absolutely instrumental in creating and growing Curious Ground into what it is today. 💖
She also made the super simple saltdough recipe with me that I was telling you about! I wrote about it on the blog today, check in out through the link in bio!
Byron Katie's process The Work it is astonishingly simple yet a powerful process of inquiry our thoughts requiring just a pen and a paper and the willingness to open the mind. The Work has been compared with the Socratic dialogue, the Buddhist teachings and the twelve-step programs.