Here’s the truth, if you are waiting right now on some big goal to celebrate, to enjoy, to savor your life, then you’ve missed out on a hundred little moments of celebration, love.
For so long, I believed I was only allowed to celebrate big achievements. So I would gloss over and bypass all the little ways that I was crushing it. I would ignore all the ways that my life was amazing, fixating on what I didn’t have yet, and where I was “supposed” to be.
And then, when I did reach my big achievements, the moments when I was actually “allowed” to celebrate, I wouldn’t. ⠀
I was so unaccustomed to acknowledging myself that I didn’t even know how. Instead of celebrating, I would:
•Diminish my accomplishment by thinking, “I should have done this earlier.”
•I would fixate on the next thing I needed to do
•I would compare myself to someone else who was doing “better”
And the result of all of this was... burnout. ⠀
You see, when we don’t acknowledge the small wins, the small joys, our lives will never truly feel fulfilling. We will never feel like we are succeeding.
Listen, I’m not saying we need to throw a party every single day (but also, why not?), but we do need to pay attention to the small wins and acknowledge them. ⠀
A literal pat on the back
Saying “I’m proud of you out loud”
Doing a dance of joy in your living room/office bathroom.
The magic is in the smallest of moments, love. If you don’t take the time to acknowledge how well you are doing, right now, you will never be able to embrace it in the future- no matter how big your accomplishment may be. ⠀ This week, try one of my favorite practices, Stop-Pause-Savor. Set an alarm on your phone for three times/day. When it goes off: stop whatever you are doing, pause, and savor the moment you are in.
⠀ Try this for one week and just see what shifts, love.
To change the odds in your favor I suggest never asking a question you
know the answer to. Instead, you could say something like “You broke the
vase while playing in the house. Your punishment is to wash out two commodes and wash two windows. However, if you want to apologize
and tell me what you should have been doing instead, you only have to
do one toilet and one window.” The odds are now reversed, and the child
will have to acknowledge their mistake in their own words (thus
encouraging ownership of what they say and do) and “tell the truth” in
order to receive a lesser punishment. You have now taught them to tell
the truth when they do something wrong, and the child is likely to start
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Start this week with this in mind: Keep loving, keep doing, keep learning, keep going. Feel what you are feeling. Even if things aren’t optimal right now, find something that will get you smiling. You are deserving. You will fly.
Who gets stuck in the comparison game every now and then?🙌 Who is more successful than me.....Who seems to be doing it easier than me....Who writes better content than me......all that silly stuff... It's not a great state to be in and we need to stop comparing ourselves to others because no one is better or less than you are.
So how do you stop?
1. Recognise when it starts. When you start to do it.
2. Release it....change how you look at it...accept and honour people where they are at....and let it go through breath or meditation.
3. Practise gratitude. Write down 10 things you are grateful for and why you are grateful. For example it could be I am grateful for my friend Mary because she supports me in everything I do!. Like everything in life, it's just being able to use simple tools to produce a shift in mindset and how we look at things. 💜💜💜